Blogtober Round Up!

Happy Halloween! It’s the last day of October and I can finally say, I DID IT! I managed to post every single day this month!

I hope you’ve loved the content just as much as I have. Honestly, I think this month has been my favourite content-wise EVER. I have just loved doing blogtober!

For this final post, I’ve decided to do a round up of all of the posts that I have posted this month, just in case you missed any. So, here goes!

Blogtober

1. Introduction To Blogtober 2017!

2. The National Wedding Show NEC Birmingham

3. HELP! I Don’t Fit In!

4. Autumn Favourites

5. What Doing An English Degree Is REALLY Like

6. Loaded Scrambled Eggs On Toast

7. 5 Netflix Shows That I Have Been LOVING!

8. My Autumn Goals

9. Life Through TSG VS The Real Me

10. My 5 Autumn Essentials

11. 13 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Me

12. Autumn Film Bucket List

13. Do Bloggers HAVE To Support Each Other?

14. Transferable Trends: Bringing Blush Into Autumn

15. 10 Weird Things that bloggers own

16. Autumn Candle Wish list

17.  Binge-worthy autumn box sets! #AD

18. Learning To Love Yourself

19. Autumn Lip Picks!

20. 5 Situations That All Vegetarians Have Been In

21.  Engaged at 18!

22.  My Goals At University: One Year On!

23. What Blogging Has Taught Me

24. Embracing The Darker Mornings 

25. Anxiety update: starting back at university 

26. 7 Instagram accounts I’m loving rn!

27. Ok, I accept it, I am a ‘snowflake

28. Blogs that I am LOVING at the moment

29. 5 Ways To Spruce Up Your Room

30. October Photo Diary

31. Blogtober Round up (this post!)

Thank you so much for reading and supporting me this month!

Love,

H x

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October Photo Diary!

So, seen as I love the autumn season so much, I’ve decided to compile a photo diary of some of my favourite snaps from October! 

I hope you enjoy!



Thank you for reading, and for reading all of my posts this month! Every single view has honestly meant so much to me 💛. 

Love,

H x

Okay, I accept it, I am a ‘SNOWFLAKE’

If you’re a regular member of the wonderful world of social media, you’ve probably heard this term come up a lot. As defined by urban dictionary, a ‘snowflake’ is 

“A term used to describe extremist liberals that get offended by every statement and/or belief that doesn’t exactly match their own. These individuals think they are just as “unique” as snowflakes, when really their feelings are just as fragile.”

When I started researching this topic, I found out about the history of the word. I didn’t actually know this, so if you’re interested, you can read this HERE. I also found a pretty good article about it being the defining insult of politics in 2016, which you can read HERE

I’m not going to touch on the subjects above, as frankly I know nothing about them other than what I have read from a quick google search. What I am, however, going to talk about, is the use of the word ‘snowflake’ in the modern day context, that is in the comments on LadBible’s latest piece, or the reply of someone on twitter. 

The article I will be mainly focusing my reply on is HERE (it’s safe to say that this article thoroughly p*ss*d me off!).  

‘Snowflake’ has become the perfect insult for people that don’t want to acknowledge world issues, for those that like to bury their head in the sand. 

I actually, generally, quite like our generation. We’ve become a generation of speaking out, and it’s pretty fab. If we see something degrading to women, we will tweet about it. If we see an advert that we think is racist, we will comment on it and voice our opinion. And, most of the time, our opinions are listened to, our voices are heard. 

Trigger warnings are important to us. As a generation, we speak out more and more about mental health. But, as we understand mental health more, we also understand that there are implications in speaking out about it, in that we could trigger another person. So we place these warnings to effectively help these people out, and it works. 

As the first generation to grow up with social media and modern technology, we have written our own rules. We have freedom of speech, and for many of us these platforms have become a place to exercise that. And we are powerful. A few tweets about how an advert is offensive can make an advert be pulled entirely from circulation, and that’s pretty darn powerful if you ask me. 

We have become a generation that has made our individual and collective voice matter. We have not sat back and kept our views of the world in, we have voiced them and actually made a difference in so many ways. 

This world isn’t perfect, and offensive things happen every single day. But this is where the ‘snowflake’ users seem to get us all wrong, they don’t understand that we are not offended by everything. We are offended by the things that ARE MORALLY wrong. The things that people have campaigned for the abboliation of before us, and the issues that have caused so many different conflicts before us. 

We tend to get offended by views that are just morally wrong. And that is certainly not the same as being offended by everything. 

So, if you want to refer to me as a ‘snowflake’ because you think I’m ‘delicate’ for calling you out on your racist bullshit; for placing trigger warnings at the beginning of my posts because I respect mental health; for being a feminist who believes in equality for the genders; for being vocal regarding what is consent, then sure go ahead. But, I believe in what I speak up about, and I hope that the vocalisation of these problems by we, the ‘millennial snowflakes’, will create the more equal, moralistic society in which I would like to live. 

Thanks for reading. 

Love,

H x

7 Accounts On Instagram That I’m Loving Right Now

I’ve seen a few people do this post, and I just think it’s such a lovely idea! Plus it helped me to discover some new accounts that I’ve been absolutely LOVING. And, with the current crap state of Instagram, we could all use a little boost! So, here’s 7 accounts that I am currently obsessively Insta-stalking as I cannot get enough of them!

Hannah Gale (@hannahfgale)

 

This gal slays my life every single time she posts a pic. I am just obsessed with her pictures, and her witty captions definitely make me giggle! She’s even managing to do all of this whilst growing a tiny human atm, so I officially think she is super woman. Plus, did you see THAT Blogosphere cover? She went there 🙌🏼. She’s an absolute queen of Instagram to me, and I would 100000000000000% suggest that you give her a follow if you don’t already!

 

 

Nadia (@mielandmint)

In all honesty, I only found this account recently. But, I absolutely bloody love Nadia’s style of photo. All of her images are so clear and crisp, and I really look forward to seeing her posts on my feed!

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Anxiety Update: Starting Second Year

Bloody hell. I have such a love/hate relationship with writing these posts, but I think they’re super important so here goes. 

I’ve started my second year at university. I’ve actually been in it for a few weeks now, and it’s going quite well to be honest. 

I haven’t had a panic attack in quite a while actually. This is probably the longest I’ve gone in quite a long time, so I’m feeling pretty positive at the moment. I haven’t felt ill or even had cramps (my main symptom). I think this is partly down to the fact that I love the people that I live with. I feel safe here and happy and content, and it’s a really nice feeling. 

I’ve also been meeting a few new people. I’ve put myself out there on my course a little more and started sitting with people who were just acquaintances before. Again, it’s pretty nice. I feel very content and a lot more confident in myself. 

I’ve met up with one of my friends that I met through blogging (abbey!!) and it’s really nice to have someone there to discuss that side of my life with, rather than trying to hide it from people who I’m worried will laugh at me. 

I mean, my anxiety hasn’t gone obviously. There’s no real cure, and I know it will always be there bubbling under the surface, but for now I’ve been having a good run. 

I mean, there’s been a few times when I’ve felt myself slipping into a hole. But, I’ve been trying to concentrate really hard on my work and what I need to do to achieve this year, and so far it’s stopped me from sinking. 

So yeah. I wasn’t going to write this update, because it’s quite positive rather than negative, but I realised that I only ever share the negatives when it comes to anxiety. So I thought it would be nice to write quite a positive post about how I’ve been feeling lately, for me to look back on when it’s a little tougher to remind me that I can do this and I can get through this. 

Lots of love,

H x

Embracing The Darker Mornings


Dark mornings can be hard, and very demotivating for sure. So, I’ve decided to write a post about embracing them. Because, even though autumn is my favourite season, I can appreciate that dark mornings are not the most inspirational thing in the world. So, I’ve got some tips for how to embrace the dark mornings, rather than dread them and snooze the alarm 12 times…

Get Up 15 Minutes Earlier

Okay, stay with me here. I am the worst person for wanting to lay in in a morning, but waking up earlier really does make you feel better for the rest of the day. Those extra 15 minutes will give you more time to wake yourself up and get mentally prepared for the day. They’re valuable, trust me.

Just Get Up

Just do it, you’ve got to. Turn your light on as soon as your alarm goes off and it will give the illusion of a light morning. You’ve got to just bite the bullet and get out of bed though, and once you do you’ll feel better for the extra time you will get in the morning.

Turn The Lights On

Everywhere. There’s nothing worse than trying to get ready and prepared for the day in a dark house, so turn on the lights and try to think of light, rather than how tired the dark makes you feel.

Eat Breakfast

You should eat breakfast anyway, but especially during the darker months. Even if you don’t have loads of time in the morning, you could always make something the night before and have it ready in the fridge (such as yoghurt, honey and fruit) or a smoothie is a nice and quick way to get a healthy breakfast, plus you can take it on commute with you!

Walk To Work/School/Uni (if possible)

I mean, if you work ages away, then maybe don’t. But, if it’s within walking distance, why not walk there?! The extra exercise will make you feel happier before the day begins properly, and the crispness of the autumn air will certainly wake you up!

 

What are your tips for getting up when it’s dark? Let me know in the comments!

Love,

H x

 

What Blogging Has Taught Me

I am really appreciative of my blog and all of the opportunities that it has presented me with. But, it has also taught me a lot of things! So, I thought it would be fun to document them in this post (and I cannot believe that I hadn’t thought of writing this before now!).

Friends you’ve never met in RL can become your closest friends

I find it much easier to open up to people online rather than in RL. I don’t know why, I just do. So it should come as no surprise that some of the friends that I’ve met online have become my closest friends!

Coding/SEO/DA and other jargon

Every time I manage to master coding, I actually feel like I’ve won the lottery. I am not a website-mastermind, and I never will be, but my blog has definitely taught me some basic things about website building and organisation that I simply didn’t know before.

Social Media Management and scheduling

I have always loved social media, and I’ve always known that. But, I wasn’t aware of how to portray myself online and how to schedule content. I mean, for my personal accounts I don’t schedule because I don’t need to, but blogging can be quite demanding in terms of social media activity so scheduling definitely helps me out a lot.


Instagram bots etc

I had NO idea that when brands followed my little personal account/liked my pics/left weird comments, that it was the work of bots! My eyes have definitely been opened.

World issues

Sounds a bit weird, but being online more for blogging purposes has taught me a lot more about politics and world issues. I have definitely taken much more of an interest and although, generally, I don’t see a place on my blog for this, I really enjoy being more clued up about issues within the globe.

Basic photography

I have always loved taking photos, but I’m talking taking them with my Nikon Coolpix of random Christmas decorations. Blogging and everything that comes with it has definitely taught me a lot about taking and editing photographs. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I am not a pro photographer, but at least my pics are decent now.

Mental health struggles are more common than I thought

I have struggled with my mental health for a long time, but no one around me really spoke about it. Yet, when I found blogging, I found that mental health issues are actually a lot more common than I originally thought and it really helps me to have so many positive people who are willing to discuss this on my feeds!


Other opinions are ok

Blogging has taught me to be a lot more open and accepting of other people’s opinions for sure. I mean, I definitely needed to learn this and this is a skill I shall be taking with me for the rest of my life.

You’re Never Alone

Finally, you’re never alone. There’s always lovely people out there willing to help, you just have to find them!

 

What has blogging taught you?

 

Love,

H x

My Goals At University: One Year On


Hello! I wrote a post about my goals for university a whole year ago now. And, as I’m just beginning my second year, I thought it would be fun to review my goals and set some new ones for the year ahead! So, without further ado, here are my goals from last year:

* Get a good degree in a subject I love. I feel like this is an obvious goal, but it is my main goal for my time at university and one I hope i truly do fulfil!

* I mean, this one is in progress!
* Make new friends, and different types of friends. I want friends I can go clubbing with, go to coffee shops with, chill with, study with and shop with. Whether these are the same friends or different groups, I really want to meet new people and gain life long friends!

* Definitely done this one! I don’t have many friends at uni, but I have good ones and that’s all that matters. Quality over quantity! 


* Join and stick to an interesting society, which will be a completely new experience.

* Yeah, I haven’t done this yet. Carrying this one over!
* Get a small job.

* I have done this! I have 2 jobs which i love 🙌🏻
* Be involved in the university in some way, whether it be in the union, in a society, in a mentoring scheme or anything else.

* I’ve got a job within this area and I love it! 
* Go on work placements to decide what I want to do in the future.

* This one is in progress too, although I think I may have decided what I want to do with my future!

As well as the goals that are still ongoing, my goals for this year are:

  • Keep up with the course reading and read around the subject. 
  • Meet new friends, preferably on my course. 
  • Do myself proud this year, and work as hard as I can!

Are you at university? What are your goals? Let me know in the comments!
Love,

H x 

Engaged At 18: What It’s Really Like

I got engaged at 18. I am now 19, and I’m beginning wedding planning. I’ve been with my fiance for the last 6 years (today actually, happy anniversary babe!) and I have known that he is my soul mate since I was 13 years old. Sounds crazy right? Here’s my experience…

When you tell your friends and family that you’re in a relationship at 13 years old, they are probably, definitely, not expecting you to still be with them 6 years later and planning your wedding. Heck, when I got into our relationship at 13 years old I probably wasn’t expecting that either. I knew I had feelings for my new boyfriend, but I definitely didn’t know the extent of those feelings straight away or how much they would deepen. It’s unusual in our society, but it does happen for some people, and I am proof of that! In fact, I know quite a few bloggers who are in similar situations to me relationship-wise, and it’s really nice to have someone who gets it.

Don’t get me wrong, our relationship has had it’s fair-share of hardships. As well as allllll of the good memories that we have, me and Zack have also experienced a lot of things that most relationships probably don’t have to contend with. Being a teenager can be hard sometimes, but it’s nice to know that there’s someone there who always has your back.

A couple of decades ago, being engaged and planning a future with your partner would have been completely normal. But, for some reason, our generation has become very opposed to young relationships/marriages. There seems to be this trend circulating about how you have to ’find yourself’ before you get into a serious relationship. I’ve even seen others say that your twenties is for ‘finding yourself’ and that you cannot do that whilst in a relationship. To be completely honest, I think that’s complete bullshit. If you’re with the right person, they will help you to grow and to ‘find yourself’. For the last 6 years I have been growing and finding myself, all with the support of my amazing fiance who has helped me to grow and find who I want to be. Am I done growing and learning about life yet? Nope. But I hope I am still learning new things when I am 90 years old, so I definitely don’t feel like I am hindered by the fact that I will be married in my early twenties.

Ok, so what’s getting engaged at 18 really like? I’ll be honest, it’s a very mixed bag. Some people, those who truly know you, will be happy for you. They will know how serious you are about each other and how serious your feelings are, and they will support you 100%. Others, who don’t know you so well, will wrongfully judge you. They will think that you’re silly and that you’re ‘playing’ happy families. They won’t understand, and they will laugh behind your back when they think you’re not looking saying that you will never work.

I was talking to one of my closest friends about this recently actually, because I was explaining that a few times at uni people have come up to me and said ‘Oh, so you’re the one who’s engaged at 19?!’. It makes me feel SO uncomfortable, and I was explaining this to her, and saying that it makes me feel like people are talking behind my back about me and laughing at us thinking we won’t work. She said ‘have you SEEN you two together?’, and I knew instantly exactly what she meant. Anyone who has actually met me and Zack and knows us well hasn’t questioned our decision to marry young, so why on earth should I be concerned about what people who barely know us, and have never met us both, think? I shouldn’t. Because I know my heart and I know Zack’s and that’s all that matters.

Do I think that we have rushed into anything?

Short answer, no. To be blunt, we waited 3 years to have sex, 5 to get engaged, we haven’t moved in together yet, and we will have been together for 8 1/2 years by the time we get married, and that’s longer than most couples tend to wait in 21st century!

Do I think that love is ageless?

Yes I do. Thanks to Miley Cyrus’ Miles To Go, I have always believed that, as long as you are mature enough to understand what love is, you can certainly fall in love at any age.

Do I think that being engaged at 18 is for everyone?

Certainly not! I think that marriage, engagement, commitment, relationships, they should all come when you’re ready. If you’re never ready, that’s fine. If you don’t feel ready until you’re 92, that’s fine. If you’re ready at 18, that’s fine. We are all different and our feelings and personal growth all develop at different rates and that is perfectly ok.

What does twitter want to know?

I asked my twitter followers if there was anything specific that they wanted to know about being engaged at 18/19, so here are a few of the questions that I was asked!

Well, obviously Zack asked me, and I didn’t  that he was going to ask until he did. But, we had spoken about marriage and the future a lot, and I did tell him that I didn’t want to be engaged before I went to university, but that’s mainly because I was worried about what other people would think. I knew I was ready to make the commitment, and that I wanted to marry Zack when I was 16 years old and he first joined the army. I didn’t get to see him for 6 weeks, and communication was minimal, and I knew about half way through that experience that I 100% wanted to marry this man. But, I knew I wasn’t ready to be engaged just yet, as I wanted to grow as a person and become more mature before I made that commitment. The timing of Zack’s proposal was definitely the right time for me, and I couldn’t have been any happier when it happened.

I actually asked Zack this question too, and he response was:

No actually! I did expect parents etc to question if we were ready, but everyone seemed to agree that it was the right time. I think our parents had been expecting it for a while, so nobody that really knows us had much to say at all. They were all really supportive actually, which was really nice as I was a little worried about their reaction (even though Zack had actually told everyone before he had asked me!).

Yes and no I guess. I had a weird fixation with getting married at 21, but that won’t be happening and that went away as I got more mature. When I got to around 16, I knew that I wanted to commit to Zack through marriage, and I knew that I wanted it to be soonish (as in not having to wait until we were in our 30’s!).

Marriage is important to me because I feel like it’s a commitment that I really want to make because I am in love with this person and I am sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with them. I know that it’s not really necessary in today’s society, and I don’t feel like it’s necessary to prove my love in any shape or form. But, my parents are divorced and I think that greatly influenced how much I want to get married because it’s made me want a really strong, stable, family unit in my future (excuse me for sounding like Ms May in that sentence). I also know that marriage isn’t necessary for that, but I definitely feel like it’s a step that I want to take to celebrate the love that me and zack share, and to become an union, and I cannot wait until I get to refer to Zack as my husband. I will also be taking his last name, because I bloody hate mine lol.

Definitely not. We had been together for over 5 years so that stage had long surpassed us! We are both quite mature for 19, and I would say that the ‘honeymoon stage’ probably ended for us when we were around 14/15 as that’s when we had a lot of personal issues to deal with, and instead of splitting us up like everyone thought they would, they just brought us closer together!
So, I guess, what I am trying to say in this post is, hun, YOU DO YOU. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. Everyone has different development journeys, and if something feels like it’s happening at the right time for you, then why should anyone else tell you that it’s not?!

Love,

H x

5 Situations That All Vegetarians Have Been In

You’re a veggie, you’ve chosen not to eat meat, that’s your choice, end of, you’d think? But, you’d be very very wrong. Being a vegetarian comes with some (ignorant) questions and hilarious predicaments, so here is a list of five of the situations that I’ve encountered recently!

1. The ‘So, what made you want to become a vegetarian?’ Question

This one is a classic. Yes, I do understand that you may just be genuinely interested, but do you know how many times I get asked this? And, if I’m honest, I don’t even really have a straight answer without lunging into a moral rant. So, I’ll just say something about not liking meat or the treatment of animals and hope you shut up.

2. The awkward conversation: ‘Would you like a haribo?’ ‘No thank you’ ‘Why not?’ ‘I can’t eat them, I’m a vegetarian’ *Confused Expression* Continue reading “5 Situations That All Vegetarians Have Been In”