To Brag Or Not To Brag? That is the Question.

Ahhhh, ‘bragging’.

This is something that I have struggled with my whole life.

So much so, that I’ve often refused to celebrate my achievements. I’ve asked family members to delete congratulatory posts from social media, refrained from sharing good news, heck, I even got embarrassed when I won more school awards that anyone else, because I didn’t want to seem like I was ‘bragging’.

I have tried to be humble, and tried to be ‘down-to-earth’, but there has been times when I’ve been really, really, proud of myself. And I’ve refrained from celebrating, because even the slightest celebration can be seen as ‘bragging’.

I see it now in blogging with the ‘exciting emails’ concept. There’s some times when I am really, really, REALLY, happy about the email that I’ve received. I may even do a little happy-dance around my bedroom, but I don’t share it online. Simply because I don’t want that pride to be diminished by someone telling me that I am wrong for celebrating my achievements or sharing my pride, and it sucks to be honest.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on the other side of the ‘exciting email’ fiasco too. And yeah, it can make you feel a bit poop when someone seems to be getting lots of opportunities and your inbox is looking rather dry. BUT (and it’s a big one), does that mean that they shouldn’t share their achievements at all? I’m not so convinced.

Because, really, what’s lying at the heart of it is jealousy. I am not afraid to admit that. That’s why it makes us feel a bit pants, because we are *a bit* jealous of the opportunity. In this situation, it’s easy to justify your envious feelings by thinking “oh, well they are just bragging!”, but that doesn’t mean that it’s right.

In fact, I feel like (and this is just my opinion), as a society, we easily masquerade our jealousy as ‘bragging’. The dictionary definition of ‘bragging’ actually states that it’s a demonstration of excessive pride and boasting, not the demonstration of pride at all. But, as a society, just the slightest hint of pride at all and we are like ‘HELL NO!! HOW DARE YOU BE PROUD! YOU ARE A BRAGGER!” and that’s it, case close, you feel like marginally *a tinsy bit* better, and the person that *was* proud of themselves now feels like utter shit on a plate, congrats.

And I’ll admit it, my own personal experiences could be very much clouding my judgement here, but I still see so much of this and the blogging world is awful for it!

Why do we (myself included) have to feel jealousy over someone else doing great? Why can’t we just be like ‘yas girl’ and move on with our days? Even, why can’t we just ignore it? Is all of life just one big competition?

These are questions that I cannot answer, to be honest. But, I did ask some of you your opinions, and here’s what we have:

Me, personally? I’d like to change my mindset on ‘bragging’ completely. I want to be happy for others, and for myself! And I want to be able to share my pride, without being told that I am bragging. However, I do also admit that there is a line. This can be excessive, and it can be a *bit* too much some times.

So, am I contradicting myself entirely in this post? Perhaps.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Love,

H x

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4 Replies to “To Brag Or Not To Brag? That is the Question.”

  1. Great post! I really enjoyed reading it. It’s so topical and relatable these days especially on twitter when bloggers tweet about opportunities they’ve gotten. I too have always been pretty hesitant about being vocal about achievements and in my blogging life but after thinking about it a lot more and watching other bloggers tweet about their exciting opportunities and reading your post which reminded me of how i feel about this, I do believe that it’s okay to talk about your achievements because it’s nice to feel proud and supported. But I do feel that it should be done in a way that isn’t offensive or over the top and would be hurting others by taking it too far. Fab post! Thanks for sharing!

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  2. This was such a great post to read and so relatable, sometimes we hold back sharing things because we don’t want to come across bragging but we’re just simply excited and so happy with what we’re doing togther and as individuals. It’s very hard but I think there is a difference but different people are things differently. I completely get what you mean though!

    Jessica & James | http://www.foodandbaker.co.uk / http://www.foodandbakertravels.co.uk

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  3. I relate to this post so so much! There really is quite a lot of sniping going on in the blogging community at the moment over the concept of “exciting emails”, and like Steph has said in her comment, it really is difficult to gauge whether you’re coming across as braggy or excited! I would never want to seem like I am entitled, any blogging opportunity that I’m lucky enough to get makes me pinch myself and I certainly don’t feel like I take it for granted! I’ve received quite a lot of blogging emails and news that I’ve been really excited about lately, but I have shared a very few of them on social media because I’m worried about coming across badly! I think that I need to re-evaluate this, however, and share things that I’m excited about because at the end of the day, I am proud of the opportunities that blogging has brought to me, and why shouldn’t I shout about them?! I definitely agree with what you say about jealousy being a big factor when people complain about “exciting email” tweets!

    Abbey xx

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