So, I know that I usually like to be really upbeat and chirpy during the Christmas season and during the blogmas posts, but this one is a little different. But, I was inspired by the recent alternative Christmas ad from the Children’s hospice, which I’m going to insert below.
Now, I’ve got to admit, Christmas hasn’t always been the happiest of times for me. I’ve experienced the loss of a loved one, as I’m sure most people have, and Christmas never feels the same again without them. But Christmas is also a time when so many people are so happy, and that can hurt even more if you’re not.
But, I’m writing this post to let you know that your feelings are valid. Just because it’s the time of year for the man in the red suit to nearly visit, doesn’t mean your feelings are invalid or wrong. You can be sad, upset and emotional any day of the year, including Christmas, and that’s perfectly justified.
And, if you’re a person who expects everyone to be chirpy around Christmas, please understand that some people might not be, and that they will have their reasons.
As I said, I’ve had hard Christmases in the past. But I’ve come to realise that Christmas is a time for appreciating the people you love, and from that I’ve managed to enjoy it and for it to become a happy time again. But not everyone is at that stage yet, some people may never reach that stage, and like I said, that’s okay.
If you’re struggling with something, please don’t be afraid to reach out. If you need help, please still get the help you need even though it’s Christmas. Christmas can be exhausting, especially if you struggle with MH issues, so don’t feel like you have to put on a brave face, or ignore your feelings just because it’s a time when you should be happy.
And, if you know someone who’s experiencing their first Christmas since the loss of a loved one, or even just someone that finds Christmas a very difficult time of year, please reach out to them. Go and visit them so that they are not alone, ask them if they’d like to join in your festivities. Even if you know that they’re going to decline, ask anyway so that they know that you thought of them.
Please don’t let anyone you love feel alone this Christmas.