‘NICE TITS’

Today it was 29 degrees. I wore a vest top with trousers. If you read my blog regularly, you may know that I absolutely hate my arms, so this was a big step for me, but I did it anyway because it was so hot. 
I am a 36G bust. I will put that out there now. So, sometimes, even the most modest looking clothes look really provocative on me. I’ve spoken out in the past how hard it is to find clothes to fit my body, but today I felt quite good in a little white vest and tapered trousers, as they fit my body. 

However, today I was made to feel ashamed for my body. After watching a fellow female being harassed by some men in a van earlier today who ‘needed’ to tell her how ‘hot’ she is via a window when she was with her children, making her visibly uncomfortable yet still carrying on, I was already a bit angry. But, I carried on my day, and ending up sat on a bench to eat some lunch with my little brother, close to quite a busy road. 

Sometime after I had been sitting there, I saw a group of around 15 MEN (I’m talking late 30’s to early 50’s). I dread situations like this every time I leave the house, so I quickly put my head down and tried to make myself invisible to them. 

But, of course, they noticed my chest. Although, luckily, they didn’t stop to chat, they did make a few disgusting comments whilst they past, which were very clearly audible to me. Earlier this week I was also pipped at and wolf whistled by a man in a van, much to my discomfort. So I felt the need to write this post, because it’s just not fair. 

This last week, it’s been highs of 30 degrees. That’s pretty damn hot. All around me I see men comfortably walking around without a shirt on, but we cannot do that, we are expected to ‘cover up’ because we are women. When these men walk around without anything on their top, it’s fine. I have never witnessed a female sexualising them for it, they do it because of the heat. 

But, as females, we cannot do that. We are made to feel ridiculed and like we deserve to be sexualised, just because we want to keep cool in the heat. I’m so tired of it. The female I mentioned earlier in this post was wearing a maxi dress, I was wearing full length trousers, we were both, if anything, already wearing TOO MANY clothes for the current climate. But, yet, we were still made to feel dirty and as though we had dressed that way so that men could sexualise us, and it is so wrong. 

I just want to live in a world where women are equal. People say that feminism is pointless in today’s era because women are equal, but we are not in so many different ways. We cannot even leave the house, in June, in 30 degree heat, in a vest that shows off a little bit of cleavage, because we are sexual objects. I cannot even sit on a bench with my little brother, without being reminded of the desire that MIDDLE AGED MEN have for my ‘impressive chest’. 

I feel sick and uncomfortable. And now I just wanna go home and hide for the rest of the day. 

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3 Replies to “‘NICE TITS’”

  1. One thing that I HATE is how men (even men with boobs bigger than women!) can parade around with almost no clothes on. Like, I’ve seen men walking around too many times with no top and tiny shorts – like why is that acceptable when women have to cover every inch of their body to get a bit of respect?! Your anger and feeling uncomfortable is completely justified. Gahhh!

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  2. Urgh, I totally feel your pain here Hayley! It’s utterly ridiculous (as you say) that men can mince around topless in the summer and not be sexually harassed, whilst women who are still fairly covered up in comparison barely escape the gaze of perving men! Grrrr! I’m so sorry that you had this experience, middle aged men should know better!!

    Abbey ๐Ÿ˜‡ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  3. PREACH PREACH PREACH!!
    100% agree with your anger here – just hate the double standards that men have, it’s outrageous! So sorry you have to go through this! Thanks for sharing and expressing!

    Jessica & James | foodandbaker.co.uk / foodandbakertravels.co.uk

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