‘Getting married at 21 is like leaving the party at 9pm’- A Response

‘Getting married at 21 is like leaving the party at 9pm’

Or like getting to love and adore someone for even longer than anyone else and getting to be happy and secure with them whilst still being able to do everything you wish. Exploring the world with someone who makes you love yourself. Establishing a love for yourself from a younger age. Learning loyalty and how to reason with someone. Learning how to have a relationship and how to set boundaries and consider another person. Learning how to put someone else’s wants and needs and wishes on to your own list and doing everything you’ve ever wanted to do together. 

This started out as a tweet, but very quickly and easily became a blog post.  I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, which is longer than a lot of people are together before they are married and, even though my adult life is just beginning, I know I want nothing more than to spend every moment possible with him. He just makes everything better. He makes my smile a bit bigger, my laugh a bit louder and my heart a bit warmer. I couldn’t imagine my life without him. I say it so often, but he saved me. He loved me when I couldn’t love myself and when I was too lost to find the way on my own. And for that I will be eternally grateful. 

I’m not saying that being with someone like this is for everyone, but just because it isn’t for you doesn’t mean that it isn’t for somebody else. Relationships aren’t for everyone, but just because you like to be seeing a different person every day doesn’t mean that some people cannot only want one. I wouldn’t have my life and my relationship any other way, but that’s just me. 

And this post was written in a tweet, copied into WordPress and scheduled at 1am because I saw something that annoyed me. I guess you can tell I’m passionate about this. 

Don’t paste your personal likes, dislikes, wants, needs, wishes and feelings on to another person. It is perfectly acceptable to be 40, single and loving life, just as it is to be 18, married and loving life. Please realise that people are allowed to be different. 

Thanks for reading,

Hope I didn’t go too mushy on you there,

H X 

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2 Replies to “‘Getting married at 21 is like leaving the party at 9pm’- A Response”

  1. I loved this post!
    I remember getting engaged at 17 and a lot of people including family and friends were raising eyebrows, making unnecessary comments trying to put me off it all. I got married to my love at the age of 21 and still people were saying I’m too young blah blah. Nearly three years into my marriage, my partner and me are the happiest we’ve ever been.
    I only wish I got married earlier. I don’t bother with those people who were putting a downer on our relatonship.

    Just do you girlfriend. Whatever makes you happy. There’s always going to be some people who will rain on your parade.

    Sending lots of love โค

    Sabah || http://www.womanishaffairs.org

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