Small disclaimer before we begin; in this post I am referring to relationships in which both parties consent and are of a reasonable age to do so.
As someone who fell in love with my (now) fiancé at the age of 13, ageism is certainly not alien to me. I have mentioned it *a few* times on my blog before, with my ‘Getting married at 21 is like leaving the party at 9pm’- A Response post and my Engaged At 18: What It’s Really Like post, but I don’t feel like I’ve ever fully delved to the very bottom of the issue; ageism.
So, when I recently came across the below tweet from the lovely Rachel, I just knew that I had to write a blog post about it.
Imagine cancelling your wedding and someone emailing you to say “good one, you’re too young anyway”
— Rachel ☕️ (@nospaceformilk) 1 February 2018
What is ageism?
The Oxford English Dictionary Online defines it as ‘Prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age’.
As Zack and I are considered ‘young’ to be getting married, this is something that I’ve also witnessed. I’ve felt looked down on by the wedding industry as we’ve tried to plan, because there seems to be some sort of weird consensus that getting married young is wrong. It’s a confusing thought-path to me because, generally, the people that I know who got married at a younger age, are the people who seem to still be in love to this day.
Do I have a study to prove this correlation?
No. And I am too lazy to conduct one.
But, so many of my role-models and the relationships that I aspire to in my life began at a young age. Did this effect me when I fell in love? To be honest, I don’t know. I always wanted to fall in love at a young age, because I always felt ready to. I matured when I was very young, and I always believed that love had no age. Continue reading “Can you be in love at 13? Ageism in relationships.”